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Wonder Woman Underoos and Poison: The Best Feminist Recruiting Tools Yet...

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So, if you haven't seen it, Kristen Schaal did a hilarious piece on the Jon Stewart show about sexist media coverage in the Clinton campaign.  Apparently, all women have poison and wear Wonder Woman underoos when fighting injustice.  There are really hilarious moments here:  "misogyny is like jazz:  women know it when they hear it" and "freedom tears."  The Indigo Girls soundtrack to the strip show, along with "good thing she's not going to be president or there'd be garbage bags full of testicles all over America." 

Hilarious.  Watch it.  Then buy some underoos at amazon.  Hat tip:  TGW.


The Big Fat Hillary Post You've Been Asking For: I'm Not Ready To Make Nice

I get it.  You want to know what I think about Hillary Clinton conceding the Democratic party's nomination for president to Barack Obama.  You can stop with the "whaddaya think" e-mails already.  Here goes.  I'm angry. I'm not ready to make nice.  And I'll vote for whomever I damn well please.

They say a picture is worth a thousand words, so here is the picture from today's concession speech:

Hrc Hillary is smart.  Hillary is tough.  And, Hillary is an inspiration to the generations who follow in her footsteps.  For those of you who cross country ski, you know that breaking a trail for those who follow you is a tough role to have on a trip.  Hillary has created a fine trail for the rest of us to follow.

But as we watched her do so, her struggles mirrored our own struggles.  The sexism she confronted was our own battle for equality, our own battle to be taken seriously, our own battle to break through all of the glass ceilings that lie in our way, our own battle to demand a government that represents us, or own battle to feel truly represented. 

How can you truly say thank you to Hillary for that? 

In her concession speech yesterday, Clinton said:

I ran as a daughter who benefited from opportunities my mother never dreamed of.  I ran as a mother who worries about my daughter's future and a mother who wants to leave all children brighter tomorrows. To build that future I see, we must make sure that women and men alike understand the struggles of their grandmothers and their mothers. 

The 2008 contest for the Democratic nomination was eye-opening at best, and a horrific testament to our current misogyny as a nation at its worst.  On one level, I feel like I just watched a woman get bitch-slapped by the world for 16 months.  The great "Hillary smack down" took the form of:  the sexist husbandry of the media, the hypocrisy of the rhetoric of "equality" and "change," the farce of a liberal community that fought dirty on-line battles, and the rampant verbal diarrhea that exposed a national fabric built on resentment of women and the gains women have made in the twentieth century.

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Moreover, the nomination revealed a deeply fractured feminist community split by race, age, political affiliation, class, sexuality, and relationship to motherhood.  We are not a sisterhood united for a better world.  We are a bitchy sorority willing to sacrifice one of our own to the gods of popular opinion.

Lemmings And all of the "wow, Hillary's just swell!"  and "Didn't she run a great campaign" news items of the past week aren't going to assuage my anger any time soon.  It's a disingenuous attempt to pander to the angry feminist vote.  Those bloggers and news commentators and fellow candidates who now seek to compliment Hillary on a campaign well run after trashing her in one of the dirtiest election seasons ever can, in my humble opinion, take a long walk off a short cliff, leaping to their own deaths like the bunch of lemmings they are.

I think it's going to take some time to digest the election, but here are some preliminary thoughts:

Continue reading "The Big Fat Hillary Post You've Been Asking For: I'm Not Ready To Make Nice" »

Too Little. Too Late.

Hey sweeties!  Headline, earth shattering news:  SEXISM IS A PROBLEM.

Really?

Um.  I love Howard Dean.  I voted for him.  Long after he dropped out.  However, give me a break.  This just occurs to you now, Howard?  File this under TOO FRIGGIN' LATE.

via TGW

Howard Dean: There has been an enormous amount of sexism in this campaign on the part of the media, including the mainstream media. We'll leave present company excepted, because I think that's true. But there have been major networks that have featured numerous outrageous comments that if the words were reversed and they were about race, the people would have been fired.

So that's a big issue. And there are a lot of women in this country who -- there's two issues here. One is one candidate is ahead and one is not. That happens all the time in primaries, and you get over that. What you don't get over is deep wounds that have been inflicted on somebody because they happen to be a woman running for president of the United States.

Morning Misogyny Watch

Dear "Sweeties,"

I seriously don't think I have the energy to really engage with this week's news about the campaign.  From "sweetie" to Edwards' endorsement to the Democratic Party's STFU message to women, I feel utterly disenfranchised.  Basically, those of us who voted for Clinton (what the hell--it's still almost a 50/50 split, but Obama has "won"?) just don't "count." 

Check out this morning's misogyny round up.

Lambert has a nice overview of recent analyses of sexism in the campaign.
Egalia has a piece called "Little Sweeties Threaten to Boycott Obama".
Riverdaughter has a call to action.
And, yes, sweetie.  Not once (wait for it at 32 seconds).  But at least twice.
Thank you, Scott Ross, for this discussion of why "sweetie" is a problem.
And, of course, Melissa's "Hillary Sexism Watch Part Ninety-Goddamn-Two"

P.S.  Everyone is quoting this:

I will not miss the deafening, depressing silence of Democratic National Committee Chairman Howard Dean or other leading Democrats, who to my knowledge (with the exception of Sen. Barbara Mikulski of Maryland) haven’t publicly uttered a word of outrage at the unrelenting, sex-based hate that has been hurled at a former first lady and two-term senator from New York. Among those holding their tongues are hundreds of Democrats for whom Clinton has campaigned and raised millions of dollars.
-- Marie Cocco, WaPo

While I appreciate Cocco's sentiments (and the whole article is quite good, especially for WaPo), I want to say, "really? Because you think the silence and the sexism are going to get BETTER?"  I don't.  I think we're doomed to continue on the path of rampant misogyny in this country.  Sigh. 

I am not woman enough.

To Do:

1.  Join Jenny Craig.
2.  Cut & Color Hair.
3.  Schedule Botox session and/or facelift
4.  Join New York Sports Club
5.  Get a personal shopper.
6.  Develop an obsession with Jimmy Choos and other fashionable shoes
7.  Buy make-up
8.  Make an appointment for a mani/pedi french manicure (fake nails?)
9.  Throw out all food in the house
10.  Schedule elective genitoplasty.

(Okay, who am I kidding?  This probably isn't even half of the list....for a "real" woman!)

Did you do you homework last night?  Did you read read Sarah Hepola's hilarious "Is Your Vagina Magic?"   Now seriously people:  maybe I just need to watch more porn, but I had no idea that there was an ideal vagina.  But of course, in our image-obsessed society, even our vaginas are fat.  Let me say that again:  our vaginas are fat.

"More and more women are said to be troubled by the shape, size or proportions of their vulvas", wrote Lih Mei Liao and Sarah Creighton from London's UCL Elizabeth Garrett Anderson Institute for Women's Health.

Elective genitoplasty.  Because shooting botulism into your face and using a Hoover to suck fat off your thighs just isn't good enough.  And you wonder why Hillary is having trouble in the polls?   and liposuction aren't enough. 

Read on, vaginaphobes:

Does this make my labia look fat?
Designer Vaginas are Hot
British Medical Journal Blasts Designer Vagina Craze
Reproductive Rights Law Prof's Blog

Eliot's Headless Whores: The American Male Politician and Remedial Feminism

Sigh.  Call him the idiot of the week:  Eliot Spitzer.

Of course we've all spent a lot of time this week thinking about Eliot Spitzer's amazing acts of hubris;  perhaps the temporary definition of "hypocrisy" in Wikipedia might include a picture of Governor Spitzer as the word embodied?

In a few short days, he and his wife went from this:
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to this:
(photo via nj.com)

Large_clothes1There's a lot of fodder for discussion in the Spitzer case:  the amazing rise and fall of a visionary leader; debates over the illegality of prostitution, here, here, here, here & here;  the mirth (and sadly bad frat boy ways) of the Wall Street boys (yes, I did knowingly link to the NY Post...); the ways in which the public reacted bizarrely to the news by attacking Spitzer's wife (More disgusting Dr. Laura coverage here;  see also Body Impolitic's response, and mine!); all of this and more will continue to be debated in the blogosphere over the coming weeks. 

For me, however, what stands out is the interminable stupidity and unconscious misogyny of the American male politician.  In education--and in our legislation of things like No Child Left Behind & standardized testing--our political, social, and cultural mores have determined that there are essential skills necessary for participation in society.  A well educated citizen is articulate in basic, shared knowledge like math, literature, writing, science, civics, and history (to name a few).  I'd like to suggest that the repeated incidents of public infidelity on the part of the American male politician argue for something even more basic:  mandatory courses in remedial feminism.  To truly move to a society where men and women are considered equal, gender equality needs to be a central tenant of social, political, cultural, and academic discourse. 

In an election cycle that explicitly condones sexism against a female candidate for president, in the midst of a legislative war over reproductive rights,  in the continuing ideological fight for access to birth control & abortion, in the hypocrisy of a culture that mandates motherhood but refuses to fund and legislate access to quality daycare and schools, just to name a few issues, is it any surprise that one of the leading liberal politicians is busted for participation in a prostitution ring?

That Mr. Spitzer went to a prostitute isn't shocking.  In some ways, the only thing newsworthy here is his own vulgar hypocrisy.  But, what really bothers me is this:  if Mr. Spitzer could buy--literally--into the notion that some women are commodities to be bought for his pleasure, how is it that he could represent and advocate for public policies that ensure the equality of men and women under the law?  In New York, Spitzer was a known proponent of progressive legislation for women's rights.  Amy Goodman has a great article about it here (and about how, as the news of Spitzer's infidelity was breaking, New York's women & teens were rallying for new legislation that Spitzer supported).   

What I'm trying to get at is this:  the very public picture of Mr. Spitzer and his wife, above, sends one message about equality in our society:  men and women working together to effect social and political change (of course, he as the legislator, she as the trusty "support" network).  Mr. Spitzer's political career was defined, in one arena, by a fierce passion for women's rights.  And below, a darker, more chilling picture of Mr. Spitzer's conscious? unconscious? opinion of women.  Call them Eliot's Headless Whores.

Here is what the Emperor's Club promised its clients (via Huffington Post--the EC Website has been taken off-line):

Emperors' Club vip is the most preferred international social introduction service for those accustomed to excellence. Introducing the most impressive models to leading gentleman of the world is our expertise. We specialize in introductions of: fashion models, pageant winners and exquisite students, graduates and women of successful careers (finance, art, media etc...) to gentlemen of exceptional standards. When seeking an evening date, a weekend travel companion, or a friend to accompany you during your next business / social function our models are perfect preference.

We act for a select group of educated, refined and successful international clients who give their best in all they do and who, in return, only wish to receive the best. Catering to clients who will not compromise in any area of their life...

Our meticulous standards of beauty, intelligence and charm ensure that you always encounter the quality you've come to expect in a woman, when with an Emperors' Club vip model. Each of our companions is a product of an exceptionally fine background and a success in her right. All rendezvous are individually crafted to suit the needs of your specific occasion. Note that each model has place in her schedule for a select number of appointments per month, so your date will be a special one for both of you.

Our goal is to make life more peaceful, balanced, beautiful and meaningful. We honor commitment to our clients as we covet long-term relationships of trust and mutual benefit. Experience for yourself a service of obvious distinction...

We are a visual culture--one which understands, interprets, and argues, based on images.  Images say everything.  So, how disturbing is it that each of these "companions," who boast "intelligence," "charm," and "success" is pictured headless?  Now, before you jump to the immediate argument--of course their faces are not depicted for legal reasons.  And yet:  they are headless.  They are not, say, shot from behind without faces shown.  They are not (with one exception) shot with their hair covering their faces.  They are, in fact, headless. 

They are rated, by diamonds.  They are body parts to be used for pleasure--breasts, legs, and torsos (oh yeah--and the implied vagina).  They are not "perfect preference," but headless whores.  Were Mr. Spitzer actually interested in "success" and "intelligence" and "charm" (not to mention support and the propagation of his legacy), why would he need to look further than his wife & partner?

So, in that headlessness is revealed a vast misogyny that views women as nothing more than the fuckable object--a 'ho with holes.  Here we have women to be used and discarded--not really that different than buying a box of tissues:  buy them, use them for your bodily fluids, and throw them away when you're done.

Here we have women as the ultimate act of capitalism:  an object to be bought & sold. 

Images via Wonkette:

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Here's the thing:  if Mr. Spitzer were actually committed equality and a fierce advocate for equal rights, then he should have been repulsed by these images, a clearly disgusting portrayal of women as sex objects.  Let's face it:  we're a country fairly immune to rhetoric.  Despite the Emperor Club's discussions of "introductions" and "models" and "successful women," we all know the site is selling these women.  And Eliot Spitzer was buying--to the possible tune of $80,000.  For the moment, I'd like to belay the inevitable debate over what it means to work as a high-priced "companion" and whether or not the ability to set one's own price and working conditions is, in fact, an act of feminism, as some have argued.  That is a rich topic ripe for debate.  What I want to remain focused on here is Mr. Spitzer's remedial understanding of a woman as a headless, fuckable object.

So, the question is a philosophical one:  how can a politician truly understand and argue for gender equality when accepting the most primitive of social norms where women are concerned?  At least conservative religious leaders who would bar women from public office have their ideology aligned with their practice.  When you look at the incredible spate of male politicians engaging in illegal (or unwise) trysts, the hypocrisy points to the basic fact:  do they really believe that men and women are equal?  If not, how can they govern and legislate in a way that represents us all?  As a culture, I don't think we're truly ready to wrestle with the embedded sexism that lies deep within our cultural psyche--we can't even address & universally critique blatant acts of sexism.

Here's my final point:  none of this is news to feminists.  This is the basic stuff of feminism for years and years and years.  From conferences to websites to courses in college to  blog posts (see this great one on the male gaze at Feminism 101) to books like  Judith Butler's Gender Trouble, Susan Bordo's Unbearable Weight, Joan Jacobs Bromberg's The Body Project, and Janet Price's Feminist Theory and the Body, this is all the stuff of basic feminism.  And yet, despite all of this canonical & contemporary work, the basic message is still adrift in our culture.  Mr. Spitzer, champion of women's rights, father to three daughters 13, 15, & 17, husband to a Harvard lawyer and "partner" in his career, is revealed as a hypocrite in his own ideology.  Women as equals?  Good for the political sphere & rhetorical flourish.  Not so good for the bedroom.

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P.S.  On women politicians, sexual trysts, and equality:  I'm not saying that women politicians can't make the same mistake.  I'm not saying women might not commit an act of infidelity.  I'm just saying the temptation & the ideology aren't quite the same.  When was the last time you saw advertisements for a Headless Man Whore site?  I'm just saying...

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